“May all beings everywhere be happy and free;
and may my thoughts,
contribute in some way
to that happiness, and to that freedom.”
These words were spoken at the end of the first yoga class I ever took and they have stuck to me like glue ever since. They also relate to what I want to talk about today, and that is the topic of judging others.
Why is it important not to judge others? If it seemingly has no effect on you yourself, then why is it bad?
First, everyone is put here on this beautiful Earth by some power greater than us. How can we insult what we do not understand?
Second, judging never helps the situation.
Last, and most important: Judging others is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.
I believe that if you are comfortable with yourself, you won’t feel the need to knock others down. This is something I notice with myself: when I am happy and doing what I love, I rarely judge others. However, if i’m having a bad day, or making negative comments to myself all day, I will join in with others in the judgement and gossip talk. It’s easy to get sucked into, and makes you feel better for a few seconds or minutes after, but then you’re right back to where you started: feeling awful about yourself.
What you judge about someone else, you judge about yourself.
Are you constantly judging others for being overweight, skinny, smart, stupid, etc. ? If you are, there’s a really good chance you judge yourself for the same things, too. Are you insecure about your weight and you have to judge other people’s weight the way you do to yourself? Are you self-conscious about the way your face looks, and so you pick apart other people’s flaws as well?
Or are you confident in your body, your brain, your heart, and your mind and so you look for the best in all other human beings as well? Do you forgive their flaws and look for ways to bring them up?
I don’t know about you, but i’m always striving for the latter.
NOTE: It is human nature to judge. You are not bad, mean, or horrible for thinking these things. All I ask is that both you AND I become aware and really try to lessen the amount of judging you do on others and yourself. 🙂
Lots of love,
WE ARE ONE HUMAN FAMILY ❤