Dealing With The Haters

One thing i’ve noticed about choosing a holistic, spiritually-driven career and life path is that people feel very, very strongly about it one way or the other.

When some people hear what I plan to do for a living, they almost laugh.  I can see in their eyes, the wheels turning in their heads: “Well, that’s a nice hobby, but….”

And then there are the people who hear my passions and goals and I see their eyes light up; they’re so supportive and filled with the same passion I am.

It doesn’t end there, though.  Some people will publicly bash what you do, call it stupid, call it a bunch of BS, or “hippie shit.”  While this used to bother me, today I feel empathy for those people.  I feel empathy because they haven’t been able to open their minds to a different way of living and I feel empathy because maybe they haven’t found a passion of their own that drives them to follow their dreams.  Most of all, though, is that I understand where they’re coming from.  5 years ago I never, ever would have read a blog like mine, participated in yoga or especially meditation, and I was in such a different phase of my life that I wouldn’t have been able to see past my own problems and worries.  In fact, I am positive that had someone try to talk to me about a “holistic health and wellness” program, I would have laughed.  So I understand the hate.

However, now the hate doesn’t bother me personally anymore.  Instead, it bothers me because I feel sad that we can’t all live in this happy-go-lucky, life-is-happening-FOR-me-not-TO-me environment.  I feel sad for these people because I am a million times happier and more fulfilled than I ever was living a nutritionally/spiritually-drained life.  I do wish everyone could experience life in this way, but realize that not everyone can be ready for it.  At least not in this lifetime ;P

Keep in mind when people hate on what you do, it always comes from a place of insecurity.  So what do you do? Forgive them, let it go (really!), and move on!  Recognize that the other person is your mirror, and ask what you can learn from their insecurities.  Maybe that person reflects your inner ego, or maybe that person is the mean girl inside your head.  Forgive, move on, release.


My biggest piece of advice is to surround yourself with people who believe in and support your dreams.  You would be amazed what you can achieve when you are surrounded by people who constantly lift you up, fill you with positive energy, and push you to do amazing things.


Just a little rambling post today, but i’d love to hear your thoughts on how you deal with the haterrrrrz. 🙂

Lots of love,

2 thoughts on “Dealing With The Haters

  1. This really resonated with me. I’ve experienced the same reactions since choosing to live vegan. It’s gotten to the point where if someone asks me why I’m not eating the meat/cheese being offered that I physically tense up and brace myself for the scoffing as I reply, “I’m vegan.”

    I try not to let it bother me, but it does get very difficult. It’s hard to understand why people get SO angry about a choice I’ve made for my life that doesn’t affect them.

    1. Exactly! I was vegetarian for awhile and felt the exact same way… every time I ate I felt I had to defend myself. My best advice is to smile and say, “because it makes me feel great and makes me happy!” After that, ignore the hate and let it roll off you. When you’re confident and friendly, people tend to chill out a bit 🙂

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